Uphando oluninzi oluphathelele impilo-ntle yeemvakalelo nokomelela lunikela uhlobo olufanayo lwamacebiso: yenza umthambo rhoqo, yitya ngendlela esempilweni, yakha intsingiselo nenjongo, kwaye ube nobubele kwabanye. Kodwa, njengoko kucetyisiwe uphando lwakutsha nje, le yokugqibela isenokuba intsonkothe ngakumbi kunokuba ibonakala.
Ipapashwe kwi-Psychological Bulletin, uhlalutyo lwemeta luhlalutye izifundo ze-201 zokuziphatha ezichazwe njenge "yenkqubo", equka iimpawu ezifana intsebenziswano, ukuthembana, uvelwano y ukuthanda abanye abantu, kunye nefuthe layo kwimpilo kunye nomgangatho wobomi ngokubanzi.
Ngokutsho kombhali okhokelayo uBryant Hui, indlela yokuziphatha kwe-prosocial idla ngokuba nempembelelo enkulu kwinqanaba loluntu kuba inokuchaphazela abantu abaninzi. Umzekelo, ukuvolontiya kunokuba nempembelelo enkulu ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Noko ke, yayinye kuphela unxibelelwano imodamo phakathi kokuziphatha kweprosocial, impilo yomzimba kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo. Ayingonyuso olukhulu, kodwa isabalulekile.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumntu olungileyo?
Kuyavela ukuba iintlobo ezithile zokuziphatha zibonelela ngamandla entlalontle ngakumbi kunezinye. Ububele obungacwangciswanga obungacwangciswanga (ngokomzekelo, ukunceda ummelwane owalupheleyo ukuba aphathe igrosari okanye hlawulela ikofu yomhlobo emva kohambo olude) ithande ukunxulunyaniswa nempilo entle ngokubanzi kunemisebenzi ecwangcisiweyo necwangcisiweyo, ivolontiya kugqatso.
Inxalenye yaloo nto inokuba lunxibelelwano lwentlalo olufumana ngokuziva oko ububele obuzenzekelayo. Ukupha ngokungekho sikweni kunye nokuthanda abanye abantu kukwathanda ukuziva kuncinci njengesibophelelo kwaye ngakumbi njengesipho.
Enye into efunyenweyo yaba imvakalelo enkulu yokuphila kakuhle kunye nobubele oko kukhokelela ekubeni uzive unentsingiselo enzulu, xa kuthelekiswa nokulunga okunika umzuzwana nje wolonwabo okanye ukulunga.
Iziphumo zahluka ngokobudala, kunye nabathathi-nxaxheba abancinci bafumana ukukhuthazwa okukhulu kweemvakalelo, ngelixa abathathi-nxaxheba abadala bachaza iziphumo eziphuculweyo zempilo. Ukongezelela, amabhinqa aphawula unxibelelwano olungakumbi phakathi kobubele nentlalo-ntle kunamadoda.
Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba unokukuphepha ukuba nobubele ukuba akunamiphumo yempilo obuyifuna? Akunjalo. Siya kuhlala sikhusela ukuziphatha kwe-prosocial, okusemgangathweni jikelele kunye nenxalenye yenkcubeko ekwabelwana ngayo yoluntu. Ukuba ngumntu olungileyo nobubele akubizi mali, kwaye kunokuyiphucula impilo yakho.