Nangona sele sisondele ekuqukumbeleni unyaka ka-2018, kukho abantu abaseka izindululo zabo ezitsha ekuqaleni kukaSeptemba ngokuqala komsebenzi omtsha kunye nonyaka wesikolo.
Kwiphulo lokuba “ngcono,” kufuneka sizibuze ngempilo-ntle yethu yengqondo. Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi impilo yengqondo yabadlali ukuba bazi ukuba yeyiphi imiphumo enayo kubo, abaqeqeshi kunye nosapho. Kukho abadlali abaqala isizini bexhalabile, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha baye baphoxeke kwaye bakufumanise kunzima ukuya phambili. Kule nkalo, umzobo womqeqeshi ubaluleke kakhulu.
Un kufunda lwenziwa ngabaphandi bengqondo abavela kwiLizwe laseSan José igxile kwindlela udandatheko oluchaphazela ngayo iimbaleki ezingamabhinqa. I-hypothesis yayiyeyokuba ngaphandle kweenzuzo zengqondo eziziswa ngumdlalo, kwakukho iimbaleki ezisengozini yokubandezeleka ngenxa yokudakumba ngenxa yoxinzelelo okufuneka bajamelane nalo. Ezi zinto zivela ngaphandle, ngoko kunzima kakhulu ukulawula.
Abasetyhini baphinda kabini amathuba okubandezeleka koxinzelelo
Uphando lufumene ukuba umdlali oqeqeshiweyo uzimisele ukujongana nenani elikhulu lezinto ezixinzelelekileyo, ezifana ilahleko yokuzimela geqeixesha, iimfuno, Ukuzalisekisa okulindelweyo yabaqeqeshi babo, nceda abo babangqongileyo, bandise ukhuphiswano kunye nokusebenza. Ukongeza, isifundo sibe nayo ukukhathala, i iimvakalelo zokuthandabuza, imvakalelo yokungabi nandawo yokuya nokungakwazi ukulawula. Zonke ezi zinto zinefuthe elibi kwimpilo-ntle yengqondo yabadlali.
Kukwanika umdla ukwazi ukuba abasetyhini banamathuba aphindwe kabini okuba babandezeleke kuxinzelelo xa kuthelekiswa namadoda. Mhlawumbi isenokuba kungenxa yendlela yokuyibonakalisa, kodwa kukwayinyaniso ukuba abafazi baziva becinezelekile ngakumbi ngezinto zangaphandle.
Ayinamsebenzi nokuba ungumdlali okanye hayi, isiqendu esidakumba kuye nabani na akufuneki singahoywa. Ukuba siyakwazi ukuyiqinisekisa ngokukhawuleza, inkxaso kunye nongenelelo olulodwa Kubalulekile ukubuyiswa komdlali. Yiyo loo nto abaqeqeshi kufuneka bayazi indlela yokukhuthaza, ngaloo ndlela baphephe uloyiko lokuziphindezela kwaye bangaweli kuxinzelelo olongezelelweyo.
Umzekelo ocacileyo sisimo sengqondo abantu abanaso kwi iindawo zokuzivocavoca. Uninzi alufane lufune iingcebiso ngenxa yoloyiko, iintloni, ukungakhululeki, okanye isigwebo. Ulibale malunga naluphi na umgwebo wexabiso onokukholelwa ukuba abanye baya kwenza ngawe. Gxininisa ekunikeni okusemandleni akho, kodwa ngaphandle kokubangela uxinzelelo olukwenza ulibale ulonwabo lwezemidlalo. Ukuba umqeqeshi wakho uyasilela ukukukhuthaza njengoko ufuna, ungoyiki ukuthetha naye okanye ukukhupha iinkonzo zakhe.