Ucwaningo oluningi ngenhlalakahle engokomzwelo nokukhuthazela lunikeza uhlobo olufanayo lweseluleko: vivinya umzimba njalo, yidla ukudla okunempilo, hlakulela umuzwa wenjongo nenjongo, futhi ube nomusa kwabanye. Kodwa, njengoba kusikiselwe ucwaningo lwakamuva, lesi sakamuva singaba inkimbinkimbi kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo.
Ishicilelwe ku-Psychological Bulletin, ukuhlaziywa kwemeta kubheke izifundo ezingama-201 zokuziphatha ezichazwa ngokuthi "Prosocial", ehlanganisa izimfanelo ezifana ukubambisana, ukwethembana, uzwelo y ukuzidela, kanye nomthelela wayo empilweni nasezingeni lempilo jikelele.
Ngokusho kombhali oholayo uBryant Hui, ukuziphatha kwe-prosocial kuvame ukuba nomthelela omkhulu ezingeni lomphakathi ngoba kungathinta abantu abaningi. Isibonelo, ukuvolontiya kungaba nomthelela omkhulu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Nokho, kwakukhona eyodwa kuphela ukuxhumana thobeka phakathi kokuziphatha kwe-prosocial, impilo yomzimba kanye nomsebenzi ongokwengqondo. Akukona ukukhuphula okukhulu noma, kodwa kusabalulekile.
Kusho ukuthini ukuba umuntu olungile?
Kuvela ukuthi izinhlobo ezithile zokuziphatha zinikeza amandla okuzizwa kahle kunezinye. Izenzo zomusa ezingahleliwe ebezingahleliwe (ngokwesibonelo, ukusiza umakhelwane osekhulile ukuphatha igrosa noma khokhela ikhofi lomngane ngemva kohambo olude) ijwayele ukuhlotshaniswa kakhulu nokuphila kahle jikelele kunemisebenzi eminingi ehleliwe nehleliwe, njenge ivolontiya emjahweni.
Ingxenye yalokho kungaba ukuxhumana komphakathi okuthola ngokuzwa lokho umusa ozenzekelayo. Ukupha okungakahleleki kanye nokuthanda abanye futhi kuvame ukuzizwa kungaphansi njengesibopho futhi kufana nesipho.
Okunye okutholakele kwaba a umuzwa okhulayo wenhlalakahle ngomusa lokho kuholela emuzweni ojulile wencazelo, uma kuqhathaniswa nomusa onikezwa isikhashana nje senjabulo noma isimo esihle.
Imiphumela yayihluka ngokuya ngeminyaka, abahlanganyeli abancane bethola ukukhuthazwa okukhulu ngokomzwelo, kuyilapho ababambiqhaza abadala bebika imiphumela yezempilo ethuthukisiwe. Ukwengeza, abesifazane baqaphela ukuxhumana okuningi phakathi komusa nempilo enhle kunamadoda.
Ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi ungakugwema ukuba muhle uma ingenayo imiphumela yezempilo obuyifunayo? Akukhona lokho. Siyohlale sivikela ukuziphatha kwe-prosocial, okuwubuhle bomhlaba wonke kanye nengxenye yesiko elihlanganyelwe lesintu. Ukuba umuntu olungile nokuba nesandla esinomusa akubizi mali, futhi kungathuthukisa impilo yakho.