Ukwenza abangane kulula, kuye ngokuthi sinobungane kangakanani. Lapho sihlushwa ukukhathazeka komphakathi, izinto ziba nzima. Yingakho kuwo wonke lo mbhalo sizonikeza amathiphu ayisisekelo okwazi abantu abasha uma sinenkinga ye-social phobia, nakuba kuhlale kungcono kakhulu ukuthintana nochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo futhi asisize.
Asifuni ukwenza indaba ibe lula, sifuna nje ukunikeza usizo, ukuchaza ukuthi kuyini ukukhathazeka komphakathi, ukuthi sibona kanjani lapho othile ehlushwa yikho ukuze simsize futhi sizonikeza namathiphu ayisisekelo ukusiza ukwenza abangane futhi sithuthukise impilo yethu. ukuzethemba kanye nempilo yethu jikelele. I-Social phobia isifo esibi esidinga ukunakekelwa kochwepheshe futhi akufanele sithathwe kancane noma kuhlekwe. Uma uhlushwa yikho ngicela ucele usizo ungabi namahloni ungesabi.
Iyini ngempela i-social phobia
Ngaphandle kokuba namahloni, ukuba nokukhathazeka komphakathi kuwukuphazamiseka okufanele kwelashwe ngokushesha ukuze umuntu akwazi ukukhula ngendlela evamile ezindaweni zomphakathi. Kuqukethe ukwesaba okukhulu nokuphikelelayo kokubukwa, ukuhlaziswa, nokwahlulelwa abanye. Ukukhathazeka komphakathi kuwufuzo, kodwa namanje akwaziwa ukuthi kungani abanye bengalifuzi kanti abanye abanalo.
Lesi simo siza ukuthikameza izifundo, umsebenzi, imisebenzi yansuku zonke efana nokudla phambi komuntu noma ukuya ejimini, ukucela indlela kothile, ukuya esitolo esikhulu, njll. Ngokuvamile livela ebusheni, futhi nakuba livame ukudideka namahloni, uma lingelashwa ngesikhathi, lingavimba ogulayo aze angafuni ukuphuma ekhaya.
Kukhona uchungechunge lwezibonakaliso ezizosisiza ukuba siqaphele ukuthi lowo mngane, umakhelwane, indodana, umuntu omaziyo, umlingani, njll. une-phobia yezenhlalo futhi singafunda ukusebenzelana nalaba bantu futhi sibanikeze isandla sethu nosizo:
- Ashaywe amahloni ngokushesha.
- Bajuluka kakhulu lapho bexhumana noma ezimeni zomphakathi lapho bengase bazizwe behlulelwa khona.
- Bathuthumela ngenxa yokwesaba futhi bezwa ukuthi izinhliziyo zabo zizophuma.
- Ukuma komzimba okuqinile nokungaboni kahle emehlweni.
- Ubunzima bokukhuluma kahle.
- Bangabantu abazaziyo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho bazizwa benamahloni, bedidekile futhi bazishaya ngokwengqondo.
- Bavame ukukhuluma ngezwi eliphansi.
- Besaba noma bethuke kalula.
- Bagwema izindawo lapho kunabantu abaningi.
- Besaba ukuhlulelwa abanye abantu.
Ukuxilongwa nokwelashwa
Kumele nje uye kusazi sokusebenza kwengqondo futhi uchwepheshe uzobonisa ukuthi kwenzekani, kuye ngokuthi icala linzima kangakanani, angaqhubeka nokunikeza imithi ethile, noma ezinye izindlela zokwelapha ezifana namaqembu okusekela, kulezi zimo ngokuvamile asebenza kahle kakhulu, ngaphezu kokuqhubeka nokwelapha.
Imithi, okungenani eSpain, empeleni inqunywe udokotela wengqondo, kodwa kukhona izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezingasiqondisa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuzoba yilaba ochwepheshe bezempilo yengqondo abasidlulisela kudokotela wengqondo uma bekubona kudingekile.
Imithi ngokuvamile i-anxiolytics, i-antidepressants kanye ne-beta-blockers, kodwa lokhu akusetshenzisiwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngoba into eyinhloko isimo somzimba, esingokomzwelo nesingokwengqondo sesiguli kanye nokusabela kwabo ekwelapheni.
Izindlela zokwelapha zezingxoxo ngokuvamile ziwukhiye, njengoba labo abaphethwe yilolu hlobo lokukhathazeka bazibona bebhekene nomuntu, endaweni engathathi hlangothi ebanikeza ukulondeka futhi kancane kancane bayaxhumana futhi baziveze.
I-Las i-psychotherapies Zibalulekile futhi kulezi zimo futhi kungenxa yokuthi izazi ze-psychotherapists zifundisa izindlela zokucabanga, ukuziphatha, izindlela, izindlela zokusabela, njll. Ngale ndlela, kungenzeka ukufundisa kabusha ubuchopho lapho sibhekene nesimo esibangela ukwesaba nokukhathazeka, njengokuzama ukwenza abangane. Lokhu akuyona indaba yamaseshini ama-2, kodwa kunalokho kuwumsebenzi wansuku zonke okufanele uqhubeke ngaphandle kokwelashwa.
Amathiphu ayisisekelo okwenza abangane
Kukhona uchungechunge lwamathiphu ayisisekelo ongenza ngawo ubungane futhi uhlangane nabantu abasha. Kunjalo, kuyatuswa ukuthi uxhumane nomuntu ngokomzimba futhi uhlangane nabantu kancane kancane, futhi ungajwayeli ukucasha ngemuva kweselula noma ikhompuyutha. Kunconywa ukuhlangana nabantu abasha ngaphakathi kwedolobha elifanayo noma endaweni ezungezile, inqobo nje uma kunethuba lokuhamba okuphephile.
- Ungazigwemi izimo, kodwa zama ukuxhumana. Lapho igwenywa kakhulu, i-phobia iba namandla.
- Akukho ukulandela ukwenza amaqhinga, setha imishwana, ukugqoka ngendlela engasenze sizizwe kahle, ukuzenza omunye umuntu, njll.
- Thola abantu abanomqondo ofanayo, kungaba ngamaqembu aku-inthanethi noma ngokomzimba.
- zama ukusebenzisa izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuhlangana nabantu noma wenze imisebenzi ngaphakathi kwedolobha elifanayo noma eliseduze elingafinyelelwa kalula.
- Shintsha ukucabanga kwakho futhi ungakholelwa ukuthi wonke umuntu uzokwahlulela, ukuhleka, ukubandlulula, njll. Ngeke wazi ukuthi umuntu uzosabela kanjani, ngakho-ke kufanele ucabange ukuthi amathuba okulahlwa nokuhlekwa aphansi kakhulu kunokwamukelwa.
- Setha izinselele zesikhashana njengokuthuthukisa imikhuba yokudla, ukwenza ngcono isimo somzimba, ukuzilolongela uhlobo oluthile lwezemidlalo noma umsebenzi wezandla. Okubalulekile wukusebenzela ukuzethemba, futhi uma kuhlangene nothile, kungcono nakakhulu.
- Akekho oqaphela ukukhathazeka njengalowo ophethwe yikho. Ukukhathazeka kuyinkinga kuphela kulabo abahlukunyezwa yikho, labo ababazungezile abakuqapheli, ngakho-ke ngeke baqaphele zonke izenzo, amagama, ukunyakaza, njll.
- Kukhona lokho yemukela futhi uyifake ngaphakathi inkinga futhi sikubonise ngokwemvelo.
- Ungathembi ngokushesha, ubudlelwano bunesigqi sokuthola ukwethenjwa okudingekayo.
- Ungakhungatheki uma umphumela oyifunayo ungafinyelelwa uma kuziwa ekwenzeni abangane.
- Ulimi olungakhulumi luyisihluthulelo. Akufanele futhi senze sengathi sinesithakazelo, kodwa uma singazi ukuthi sithini, singanqekuzisa ikhanda, simamatheke, sihambisane nalokho okushiwo umkhulumeli ngezandla zethu, njll.
- Ukuze uqale ukukhuluma kungcono ukusebenzisa imibuzo evulekile, noma uzame ukuba nesithakazelo komunye umuntu ukuze uqale ingxoxo enempilo.