Abanye abantu bahlala beqinile ezimweni ezithile ezicindezelayo, kuyilapho abanye bevame ukukhala kalula. Uma siyingxenye yeqembu lokugcina, singase sizibuze ukuthi kungani sikhala kalula.
Ngokuvamile, alikho inani elilungile noma elingalungile lokukhala. Eqinisweni, ukukhala izinyembezi ezimbalwa kungaba yinto enhle: lapho sikhala, umzimba ukhulula amahomoni okuzizwa kahle asisiza ngempela ukuthi sizizwe singcono. Ukukhala kungaba kwelapha kakhulu. Abanye abantu bathi uma sebekhale kakhulu bayakwazi ukubhekana nenkinga bese beya phambili.
Izizathu
Kunezici eziningana ezihlukene ezingaba nomthelela wokuthi siqala kaningi kangakanani ukukhala. Lezi ezinye ezivame kakhulu.
Ubuntu
Ezinye izinhlobo zobuntu zibonakala zithambekele kakhulu ekukhaleni kalula kunezinye. abantu ababi kakhulu empathic (owaziwa nangokuthi abantu abazwela kakhulu) bavame ukukhala kakhulu. Labo abanokuthambekela koku i-neuroticism, abavame ukukhathazeka noma abagcwele ukungabaza, nabo bavame ukukhononda.
Umehluko webhayoloji ekwakhiweni kobuchopho kanye nokusebenza komzimba kungathinta ubuntu bakho nokuzwela kwemizwelo, okungaholela ekukhaleni okwengeziwe. Ososayensi bezinzwa abanaso isiqiniseko nge-neuroanatomy ngemuva kokukhala, kodwa bayazi ukuthi ihilela uhlelo lwe-limbic. Njengoba nje abantu abakhathazeke kakhulu benomehluko ekuzweleni kwabo kwe-amygdala, kunjalo futhi umehluko ekukhaleni okuhlobene nokwehluka kofuzo ekuzweleni kwesistimu yezitho zomzimba.
Futhi abanye abantu banobuntu obuzwela kakhulu kunabanye. Phakathi kuka-15 no-20% wabantu banalesi sici sobuntu. Umuntu ozwela kakhulu uzwela kakhulu endaweni kanye nemizwa yabanye abantu.
Okuhlangenwe nakho kwesikhathi esidlule nesamanje
Ubuntwana bethu bungaba nethonya elikhulu ekutheni sikhala kaningi kangakanani. Ukukhulela ekhaya lapho ukukhala noma ukukhuluma ngemizwa kwakungavunyelwe, isibonelo, kungase kusenze sikwazi ukukhala kalula njengabantu abadala. Imizwelo ingase ibonakale njengezinyembezi kaningi ngoba ungase ungabi namagama okuveza ukudabuka noma ukukhungatheka.
Ukukhala okuvamile noma okungalindelekile nakho kungase kwenzeke uma sizizwa sengathi sithwele imithwalo eminingi yemizwa evela ezimweni ezedlule. Uma sinomlando ohlukumezayo nodokotela, kungenzeka ukukhala kalula ngemva kokuya ekubonisaneni.
isizinda samasiko
Amasiko athile akhuthaza inkululeko eyengeziwe yokukhuluma kunamanye. Olunye ucwaningo lubonisa ukuthi abantu emazweni acebile bavame ukukhala ngenxa yokuthi isiko labo liyakwamukela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abahlala emazweni ampofu bahlala bebaningi ababhalisile ngenxa yokuthi maningi amathuba okuba badikibale ekuboniseni imizwelo.
Kukho konke ukuphila, okuhlangenwe nakho okufundiwe kuba izinhlangano ezifundiwe. Uma sihlobanisa izikhathi ezithile, izingoma noma amamuvi, nokudabuka noma ukukhala, umzimba uyabhalisa, okwenza kube lula kakhulu ukuthi sizokhala ngalezo zinto.
Ubulili
I-Las abesifazane bakhala phakathi kokuphindwe kabili noma kane Lokho madoda. Kwamukeleka kakhulu emphakathini ukuthi abantu besifazane bakhale, ngakho-ke abazizwa sengathi badinga ukufihla imizwa yabo kakhulu. Abanye ochwepheshe bathi abesifazane bangase bakhale kaningi ngenxa yokuthi maningi amathuba okuba babhekane nokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu noma imizwa yokucindezeleka.
Ama-hormone nawo anendima ebalulekile. I-hormone yesilisa i-testosterone ibonakala ivimbela ukukhala, kuyilapho amazinga aphezulu e-hormone ye-prolactin, etholakala kwabesifazane, evame ukwenza ukusebenza kwamanzi kusebenze.
Bese kuba khona izinguquko ezibalulekile zamahomoni eziza nezinto ezifana ne-PMS noma ukukhulelwa.
Izinga lokucindezeleka nokukhathazeka
Abanye abantu bacasuka ngenkinga encane lapho becindezeleke ngendlela engavamile noma bekhathele. Abanye bazoqala ukukhala ngezinto ngokuvamile ezingeke zibe yinto enkulu, njengokuwisa ingilazi noma ipuleti ngephutha noma beqaphela ukuthi ukhohlwe ukuthenga izihlungi zekhofi.
Okwenzekayo ukuthi isisekelo siyashintshwa. Uma sinokucindezeleka, lapho kwenzeka okuthile, ngisho noma siyizingane, singenza imizwa ibe namandla, ngokushesha futhi ibe nzima.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuphazamiseka kokukhathazeka kuhambisana nokukhathazeka ngokweqile, ukucasuka, ubunzima bokugxilisa ingqondo, nokukhala kalula. Izinkinga zokukhathazeka ziyisifo esivame kakhulu sezempilo yengqondo, esithinta ngaphezu kwe-18% yabantu. Uma sisola ukuthi sinemizwa yokukhathazeka ngokweqile, kunconywa ukuthi siye kuchwepheshe.
Ukudana
Ukucindezeleka wukuphazamiseka kwemizwa okuphawulwa imizwa ephikelelayo yokudabuka noma ukuba ndikindiki engase iholele ekukhaleni kalula.
Uma sibe noshintsho esikalini sokukhala futhi sihambisana nomoya, kufanele sicabange ngokucindezeleka. Izimpawu zokucindezeleka zihlanganisa imizwa yokudabuka, ukuphelelwa ithemba noma ubuze, ukuphelelwa isithakazelo, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, nokukhathala.
Ungayeka kanjani ukukhala?
Ukukhala kungaba yimpendulo enempilo ezimeni eziningi ezahlukene. Kodwa kungasiza ukwazi ukuthi ungazibamba kanjani izinyembezi lapho singathanda ukungabonakali sikhala (njengasemsebenzini, isibonelo, noma lapho sithukuthele futhi siphakathi nengxabano nomlingani wethu).
Lapho sizwa sengathi siqala ukuminza, sizogxila kulokho okwenzeka eduze kwethu esikhundleni salokho okwenzeka ngaphakathi emakhanda ethu. Siyoqalaza futhi sicabange ngezinto ezinhlanu esizizwayo, izinto ezine esizibonayo, izinto ezintathu esingazithinta, izinto ezimbili esingazihogela, nento eyodwa esinganambitha.
Uma sinikeza inkulumo ethinta inhliziyo noma sikhuluma emngcwabeni, ukulungiselela kusengaphambili nakho kungasiza. Sizoprakthiza esizokusho ngokuzwakalayo phambi kwesibuko ukuze sikulungele ngokwengqondo ukukhuluma ngakho. Sizodonsa umoya kancane, sijule uma sekuyisikhathi sokukhuluma.
Kukhona futhi into esebenza kahle kakhulu, egxile kuyo lawula uphefumula. Sizozama ngokucophelela ukudonsa umoya futhi sikhiphe kancane kancane. Lokhu kungasisiza sizizwe sizolile, sinciphise imizwa yokucindezeleka, futhi sinciphise amathuba okuqala (noma ukuqhubeka) ukukhala.
Ungakwazi yini ukukhala ngaphandle kwezinyembezi?
Kunabantu abakwazi ukukhala kalula nangezinyembezi, badabuke noma bazisole bengakhali. Umbuzo uthi singakwazi yini ukubona ukuthi abantu bazenzisa ukudabuka nokukhala.
Isayensi ibonise ukuthi abantu bangahlukanisa okuthile phakathi kwemizwelo engamanga neyeqiniso, kuhlanganise nokukhala nezinyembezi. Abantu benza lokhu ngokungagunci lapho behlola ukwethembeka kwabanye. Kodwa kunomehluko omningi endleleni abantu abangenza ngayo izahlulelo ezinjalo; futhi ngisho nalapho abantu benza izahlulelo ezinjalo, bangase bangazi kahle ukuthi bakwenza kanjani.
Isayensi iye yabonisa ukuthi abantu abazenzisa ukuzisola, ukudabuka, noma ukukhala ngokuvamile baveza izinhlobonhlobo zemizwelo eminingi kunalabo ababhekana nalezo zimpawu zokudabuka. Leyo eyiqiniso ngokuvamile iveza kuphela lowo mzwelo nesimo sokungathathi hlangothi, kuyilapho leyo mbumbulu ivame ukuveza neminye imizwa, kuhlanganise nenjabulo.
Futhi, ama-fakers avame ukungabaza lapho ekhuluma. Ngakho-ke, ama-fakers ngokuvamile abonisa inhlanganisela eguquguqukayo yezinkulumo ezingamabomu nezingamanga ezihlanganiswe nokuvuza kwangempela komzwelo.