Yize sesisondele ekuphothuleni unyaka ka-2018, kunabantu abasungula izinqumo zabo ezintsha ekuqaleni kukaSepthemba lapho kuqala umsebenzi omusha nonyaka wesikole.
Emdlalweni wokuthi singaba kanjani “ngcono,” kufanele sizibuze ngenhlalakahle yethu engokwengqondo. Kuyathakazelisa ukwazi impilo yengqondo yabasubathi ukwazi ukuthi kunamiphi imiphumela kubo, abaqeqeshi kanye nomndeni. Kukhona abasubathi abaqala isizini bekhathazekile, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bagcina bephoxekile bese kuba nzima ukudlulela phambili. Kulesi sici, isibalo somqeqeshi sibaluleke kakhulu.
Un ukutadisha olwenziwa abacwaningi bezokusebenza kwengqondo baseSifundazweni SaseSan José igxile ekutheni ukucindezeleka kubathinta kanjani abasubathi besifazane. I-hypothesis yayiwukuthi naphezu kwezinzuzo ezingokwengqondo ezilethwa ezemidlalo, kwakukhona abasubathi abasengcupheni yokuhlushwa ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokucindezeleka okwakudingeka babhekane nakho. Lezi zici zivela ngaphandle, ngakho-ke kuba nzima kakhulu ukuzilawula.
Abesifazane baphinda kabili amathuba okuba nokucindezeleka
Uphenyo lwathola ukuthi umsubathi oqeqeshiwe uzimisele ukubhekana nenani elikhulu lezici ezicindezelayo, njenge ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela, izimfuno zesikhathi, Gcwalisa okulindelekile labaqeqeshi babo, ukujabulisa abaseduze nabo, khulisa ukuncintisana nokusebenza. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lolu cwaningo lwalubuye lube ne ukukhathala, the imizwa yokungabaza, umuzwa wokungabi nandawo ongaya kuyo futhi uphelelwe amandla. Zonke lezi zici zinethonya elibi enhlalakahleni yengqondo yabasubathi.
Kuyathakazelisa futhi ukwazi ukuthi abesifazane banamathuba aphindwe kabili okuba nokucindezeleka uma kuqhathaniswa nabesilisa. Mhlawumbe kungase kube ngenxa yendlela yokuyibonakalisa, kodwa futhi kuyiqiniso lokho abesifazane bazizwa becindezelwe kakhulu yizici zangaphandle.
Akunandaba ukuthi ungumsubathi noma cha, isiqephu esicindezelayo kunoma ubani akufanele nanini sishaywe indiva. Uma sikwazile ukukuqinisekisa maduzane, ukwesekwa nokungenelela okukhethekile Kubalulekile ekululameni komsubathi. Kungakho abaqeqeshi kufanele bazi ukuthi bangakhuthaza kanjani, ngaleyo ndlela bagweme ukwesaba ukuphindiselwa futhi bangangeni ekucindezelekeni okwengeziwe.
Isibonelo esicacile isimo sengqondo abantu abanaso ku izindawo zokuzivocavoca. Abaningi abavamile ukuza befuna iseluleko ngenxa yokwesaba, ukuphoxeka, ukungakhululeki, noma ukwahlulela. Khohlwa nganoma yikuphi ukwahlulela kwenani ongakholelwa ukuthi abanye bazokwenza ngawe. Gxila ekunikezeni okusemandleni akho, kodwa ngaphandle kokubanga ingcindezi ekwenza ukhohlwe injabulo yezemidlalo. Uma umqeqeshi wakho ehluleka ukukugqugquzela ngendlela odinga ngayo, ungesabi ukukhuluma naye noma ukuhoxa emsebenzini wakhe.